How to Jerk Off: Tips to Take Penile Masturbation to the Next Level

Jacking off, rubbing one out, the ol’ five knuckle shuffle, whatever you call it, masturbation is a fun and healthy way to enjoy yourself. 

While workin’ your gherkin is natural, not everyone is a seasoned hand at how to jerk off properly and could use some pointers on penile or male masturbation methods. That’s totally fine! Not everyone gets a lesson in masturbation techniques. And even if what you're doing is working fine, there’s no reason it can’t be better!

Don’t worry, my brothers, sisters, and those who live outside the binary. If you have a penis, we’ll show you not only how to jerk off, but also some tips and tricks so you can find the way to jerk off that works best for you!

What is Penile or Male Masturbation?

Masturbation is a sexual activity where a person stimulates their genitals themselves for pleasure leading to an orgasm. 

What equipment you are working with changes how to jerk off. Right now, we're focusing on the penis, typically called male masturbation. That being said, everything written here also applies to women or nonbinary folks with penises. 

Jacking off is typically focused on external, non-penetrative stimulation. Sure, you can use some fun toys like butt plugs or vibrators to add some extra kick, but we’ll get to that later. For now, we are just focusing on meat n’ potatoes whackin’ it. 

There are different ways to jack off, but the most basic version is stroking your penis with your hand until the grand finale.

At the end of the day, if you are pleasing your peen sexually either alone or with an audience, that’s penile or male masturbation.  

How to Jerk Off

Consider this your basic guide on boilerplate male masturbation. Let’s go step by step so you can get a good grasp on how to jerk off properly. 

Be Horny

I know it seems silly to put this as step one, but hear me out. Yeah, you can be inspired to jerk off out of boredom and start with a flaccid penis, but it does help if you’re ready to go.

If you’re not really in the mood and just going through the motions, the whole experience is less fun. It’s like watching a boring movie with a great ending. You leave the theater pretty satisfied but wish you didn’t waste all that time to get there.

Go Somewhere Cozy

When the mood strikes and you want to beat your meat like you caught it breaking into your house, find a nice, comfortable, and private area. This can be your bedroom, the bathroom, or anywhere you feel you won’t be interrupted or stressed out. The more comfortable you feel, the more you can really get into it and enjoy yourself.

Pro tip: have whatever cleaning materials you’ll need at the end within arm’s reach. You don’t want to be scrambling for a cum sock when you’re just about to blow. Ruins the whole vibe.

Get a Grip!

Once you’re ready, grip the shaft of your penis with a firm, but comfortable, amount of pressure. You want enough of a squeeze the it feels good, not so much it feels like your trying to strangle your lil’ buddy. 

Or big buddy, for some of you lucky folks…

Stroke! Stroke! Stroke!

Here’s the actual “how” in “how to jerk off”.

Begin stroking up and down from tip to base. You don’t need to use a lot of speed here, just get into a good rhythm that feels right for you. 

If you do want to wank with some speed, I’d recommend some good lube. It isn’t necessary for every spank session, but it’s a big help for those of you who like it fast and furious. Lubricant is also great for cutting down on friction and chafing. 

If you do use lube and some form of porn, I recommend what is known in the culinary world as the “wet hand/dry hand” method. Keep your stroking hand lubed up and the other dry to avoid getting anything on your phone or computer.

As you get closer to orgasming, you’ll naturally and instinctively get into a faster rhythm that might focus on specific parts of your penis. That usually means closer to the tip, as it's far more sensitive than the shaft.

Fire at Will!

This part really doesn’t need any instruction. When the time is right, go ahead and shoot your load. 

If you have something to catch the fruits of your labor, like a tissue or cum sock, grab it as you reach the final stretch. If you’re fine letting the cards land as they may, just be sure after that nothing landed in your hair or anywhere else you don’t want to leave errant semen. 

Remember, jizz is like Jazz. You never know where it’s going to go. 

Bask in the Glory

Take a few minutes to settle into the afterglow. Feel your muscles relax and enjoy the waves of euphoria envelope your body and mind. 

You’ll also experience some “post-nut clarity”, a feeling of extreme presence and perspective that opens your eyes to the complexity of your life. It’s like you can solve the mysteries of the universe for a minute or two before crashing back down to our plane of existence. 

After travelling the cosmos, wash up and grab a snack. 

Other Ways to Jerk Off

Now that we've covered the basics, let's talk about how you can level-up your masturbation game. There are so many fun ways to jerk off that the possibilities are endless. 

Here's how to jerk off with extra pizzaz!

Use Some Lube

Lubricant? More like “Lubri-Can!”

Using some quality lube like the ones in the Kinkly Shop, body-safe lubes in your home like coconut oil, or even saliva can enhance sensation while reducing the amount of friction. 

Play With Your Toys

If you want to know how to jerk off and make it a show-stopping experience, get some toys involved!

Penis-centric male masturbation toys can bring a lot to the party, adding sensations like tightness, exciting textures, and goooooood vibrations. 

Masturbation sleeves, like the popular Fleshlight, act as a simulated vagina or anus (depending on the model) for you to stroke or hump away at. Just be sure to follow the instructions so you know how to jerk off properly and not ruin your toy. Be sure to use the recommended type of lube and clean the toy thoroughly when you’re done jacking off. 

Cock rings can also be fun. These are normally used to last longer, which is great if you want a long and luxurious bit of “me time”. This works by slightly restricting the bloodflow in your penis to keep it harder for longer. That being said, it’s best to not keep the ring on for more than 90 minutes to two hours to avoid damage to your weiner. 

Did I mention many cock rings vibrate? Yeah, no explanation needed there. 

For those who are open to anal fun, prostate massagers can take you from “how to jerk off” to “how did I ever not jerk off like this?!” real quick. The prostate is like the infamous G-spot, but for AMAB folks. Using prostate massagers can give you those full-body, back-cracking, eye-rolling O’s you’ve been craving.  

Edging

Edging is jacking off but delaying the orgasm. You bring yourself to the brink, then back off a bit. How long you want to hold back is up to you, but the build up can lead to one hell of a finish. 

Edging has also been shown to be an effective male masturbation method for lasting longer with a partner. So, give it a try and live on the edge!

The Bottom Line

Now you know how to jerk off. If you already knew, now you know how to jerk off better. It can feel like there is a lot of shame and stigma around penile pleasure and male masturbation, but tell that nonsense to kick rocks! You should explore your body and what makes you feel good. 

Masturbation is healthy, natural, and fun! Experiment with what you like, whether that’s with lube, using toys, or just giving yourself a good ol’ fashioned handy. 

Remember, the best way to jack off is the best way to jack off for you!