These parties and events may happen in a club that might resemble any nightclub. Sometimes they happen in private lofts, homes, or at larger swinging lifestyle events that take place at hotels and resorts.
If the party has a website, often they will post rules and entrance policies. These bits of information will help you outline what kind of people may be attending and what you might expect once inside the doors. Some rules might seem odd or strict, but experienced promoters know how to create a filter and ensure the right people make it through the doors.
Expect to pay a membership fee. Sex in a public place is illegal in most cities so many of these sex clubs are "members-only." They require you to pay a membership fee to gain entrance and this meets the legal requirements for sex on the premises. This also helps ensure they know who is attending and makes it possible for them to control who can gain entry.
Once your big night arrives, try to mingle and flirt! Everyone is there for the same reason, to meet and possibly play with other sexy and curious people. Most parties will have couches, chairs, a number of mattresses spread around the room, some padded bondage benches, or other comfortable surfaces for you to explore. There may be an hour or two of mingling before anything happens or you may find couples and triples playing on every available surface from the get go.
If you do want to play with others, bring your own supplies. The party will probably provide condoms and lube for free, but I recommend you bring your own safer sex supplies, including lube, condoms, dental dams, and gloves. Every individual defines what safer sex is for them and will be expected to respect each other’s decisions. Always listen to your instincts and never do anything you don’t want to do. Having my sex play with a safer sex barrier has always made it possible for me to relax and have peace of mind. People have turned down a sex act with me because I refused to do it without a latex barrier, but these are my standards. If you choose to have unsafe sex, then you cannot have sex with me. You, too, can set your own standards and be prepared.