If you haven't tried bondage, maybe you don't think of it as romantic. But, oh god, it sure can be. Bondage, done right, requires communication, respect and mutual care.
Bondage can be really romantic and sexy - with the right gear.
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It's also, well, bonding. Tying someone up is sort of like undressing them in reverse. Instead of stripping them down, you add a few layers in the same sensual way you removed their clothes. Then it's up to you to shower them with all kinds of attention and pleasure; your partner has given you the controls and is opening themselves up to your total attention.
Sounds sexy, right?
We're going to make it easier than ever to try with this all-you-need-to-know article. First, we'll start with a few of our favorite products to make it easy. Then, we'll go over the safety info you need to know. Finally, we'll leave you with some steamy positions to get your inspiration flowing - and help you unlock the full potential of some simple ties!
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Tying someone up is sort of like undressing them in reverse.
Bondage Products for Tying Up Your Partner
Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System
This bondage system lands on a lot of our lists because, well, it's awesome - and ingenious. It's secured under your mattress with an attachment point and soft cuff for each corner. It allows you to set up a bondage scene in seconds!
Amazingly, you can pack it away just as quickly and discreetly for next time. Just tuck the cuffs underneath your mattress when you're done, and no one is any-the-wiser!
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Kinklab Bondage Tape
Where rope bondage takes skill and practice, bondage tape is about as simple as it gets - in a good way. This quality bondage tape from Kinklab will have you wrapping your partner to your heart's content. (It even comes in multiple colors!)
We've even got some sex positions that go great with bondage tape. (You're welcome.)
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Sportsheets Amor Bondage Kit
Bondage doesn't have to include black cuffs! If you're turned on by the idea of romantic restraint but a little cautious around cuffs, the Sportsheets Amor Bondage Kit might be a better fit.
Instead of cuffs, this romantic kit includes a soft blindfold, feathery nipple clamps, and soft, silky sashes that can be used for restraint.
Best of all, the entire kit is budget-friendly and comes in a sultry red color that looks perfect for an erotic escape.
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Sportsheets Expandable Spreader Bar & Cuff Set
If this bar doesn't look sexy to you, you aren't using your imagination! This bar and two soft cuffs is full of bondage options, all of which will be safe and comfortable thanks to its sturdy design and soft details.
You know us! We wouldn't leave you without some sexy spreader bar sex positions to get your creative (and other) juices flowing!
Sportsheets Neck and Wrist Restraint
See all the attachment points on this piece? They represent all the ways you can bind your partner. Create your own personal body restraint system!
Best of all, you can "wear" the neck portion down the front or the back of the body, giving you even more bondage potential!
Sportsheets Soft Blindfold
A blindfold is oh-so-simple but oh-so-effective.
Instantly add anticipation, heighten sensitivity, and make the slightest touch feel even more erotic with the addition of a simple blindfold.
This one happens to be super-soft, made from a thick felt that blocks out light, and includes an elastic band that helps it slide onto a head in seconds.
Simple, comfy, cheap and effective. We're into it!
Strict Bondage Harness with Bows
Part lingerie, part bondage, the Strict Bondage Harness with Bows is a multi-layered treat. At first glance, it simply looks like a cute fashion harness. When the included cuffs come out, you'll see that this bum-accentuating harness actually serves as a base for bondage cuffs!
The included bondage cuffs can be clipped onto any of the metal rings around the bondage harness for flexible, kinky play that also looks picture perfect.
Best of all, you can unclip the cuffs to make this bondage harness the center point of a hot outfit for a night on the town!
Liberator Black Label Wedge
Are you turned on by including bondage during intercourse? If so, the Liberator Black Label Wedge was specifically crafted for you!
The 27-degree angle of this firm, supportive surface supports bodyweight and raises the hips during sex.
At the same time, both sides of the Wedge include a snap clip connector that clips onto the two included bondage cuffs. Add bondage when you feel like it - and simply use the Wedge by itself when you don't! (It makes hitting the G-spot or P-spot so much easier.)
Partner it all with the included plush blindfold to effortlessly add restraint to your favorite positions. It's sex furniture with the best accessories!
More Info Now that you have the "ingredients", all you have to do is put them all together for some steamy intimate moments that make you see your partner in a new light. Especially when you're new, leave the gags out of your play; it's important to be able to talk to one another. Just like sitting at a computer desk, your limbs can "go to sleep" when left in one position for a long period of time in bondage - especially when time flies so fast when you're having fun! The ability to talk to one another will allow you both to make adjustments on the fly. Things can happen. Things you never want to think about happening just ... happen sometimes (like home fires!). A bound person should never be left alone. Even if you're role playing a scene where your partner is the "helpless, ignored, blindfolded captive," you'll want to be quietly sitting across the room where they can't see you. While none of the products on this list are lockable, if you ever start to incorporate locks into your play, make sure you have the key. You know this while reading this list, but it can be easy to forget when you're turned on and want to see your partner bound as quickly as possible. A quick fix? Always store the keys inside of their corresponding locks with the locks locked. This way, you have to unlock the lock if you want to use it, ensuring you have the key. When you're using bondage rope or tape, keep a pair of safety shears handy, just in case. All of us have spots on our bodies that give us problems once in awhile. If you have a bad knee day, avoid placing any strain on the knees. This might take a bit of planning. Even if a cuff never touches the knees, a certain position on an ankle cuff might force the wearer to twist their leg (and their knee) in a way that's a bit irritating. Luckily, most of this can easily be solved by communicating with one another and readjusting positioning as needed. Common cuff spots include the wrists and ankles. Guess where nerves run particularly close to the surface? The wrists and ankles. While it can be hard to place a Velcro-fastening cuff too tightly on the wrist, if you try other types of bindings, you'll want to be cognizant of how tightly you place the cuff on. Remember: it isn't vital for the cuff to not move; the only thing it needs to be is snug enough that the person can't wiggle their entire hand or foot out of it. A good rule of thumb is that you should be able to slide 2-3 of your own fingers underneath the cuff. Cuffs and bondage tape offer an instant, jump-into-it bondage experience. If you're choosing to use rope, though, make sure you know some basic safe ties. (We have a whole guide on the basics here!) Incorrectly tied rope can cause nerve damage - and it's honestly just not very comfortable! Whatever you do, never tie rope around the neck. And, of course, since we're Kinkly, we have some great tips to make your first explorations as seamless and enjoyable as possible! A lot of bondage kits come with a number of cuffs, but there's no law that says you have to use them all. If the four cuffs on the Sportsheets Under-the-Bed Restraint System sound hot but you're nervous about having all of your limbs restrained, just try one cuff to see how it goes. Even binding a single limb can offer all the benefits of bondage with less potential for anxiety. Most of us don't know everything about our partner on any given day. That's why talking about your plans ahead of time, with your partner, can eliminate last-minute "I'm really not OK with that" surprises. Plus, it gets you both thinking and fantasizing about your upcoming fun - and what's better than that?! Trying bondage can be a lot on its own. You don't need to go and add a bunch of other new activities at the same time! Instead, especially if you're still a bit unsure about restraint, start by adding a blindfold to a sex position you already love. If you enjoyed that, maybe you want to try wearing cuffs (but not binding them to anything!) during your second-favorite sex position. If that feels hot, you might want to try some light, restrictive bondage during mutual masturbation or oral sex. You can simply add restraint to the activities you already enjoy! Many cuffs look like they're designed for a BDSM dungeon. If that look isn't your thing, don't think bondage is off the table! Instead, look for soft, flowy fabrics and romantic-looking bondage like the Sportsheets Silky Sash Restraint, Coquette Cuffs, Sportsheets Amor Bondage Kit, Liberator Silky Tie-Ups, or Sportsheets Brat Cuffs. They give the hottest "romance novel main character energy". You already know that we're the best resource for sex positions, and that includes bondage sex positions too! A list of bondage sex positions wouldn't be complete without the Spread Eagle position. It's just so good. You get to spread out on the nice, comfortable bed in a nice, comfortable position with easy access to the majority of the body. It's so easy to modify too! Loosen any bondage tethers to give the bound partner room to wiggle around, or tighten them to reduce their movement. Restrain all four limbs, or get an Extreme Under-the-Bed Restraint System for more bondage points to bind thigh cuffs, a collar, or a waist cuff in the mix. It's all up to you! If you like G-spot and P-spot pleasure, this sex position offers loads of that - and the opportunity for bondage! The Liberator Black Label Wedge makes it easy to line up the restrained partner and penetrating partner's hips, making it easier to hit the G-spot or P-spot. Modifying the Bind and Bang is easy too! If bondage isn't on the menu, simply unclip the receiving partner's wrists, and you'll be bondage-free! If extra bondage is on the menu, the receiving partner's stationary position makes this a great fit for adding a blindfold, nipple clamps, or a spreader bar for the ankles (behind the kneeling partner's back!) "Oh no, I'm forced to enjoy this wonderful, relaxing massage. How terrible!" Bet you didn't know that you could mix bondage and relaxation, but now you do! While the Private Rubdown position is shown with the Liberator Bondi, it can be done with a simple set of wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs - or any other bondage you had in mind. As a bonus, for receiving partners who feel uncomfortable being the center of attention during a massage, your "bound" status can be the mental release you need to fully relax into the activity! The Carnal Clutch sex position uses a spreader bar as a great leverage point for deep, powerful thrusts on the edge of your bed (or any other piece of furniture, you naughty explorer, you!). The lifted legs make for deeper penetration, and the penetrating partner helps support the receiver's ankles in a spreader bar to make this position go as long as you'd like. Select your spreader bar to match your mood with the Carnal Clutch. The Liberator Talea is shown above, and it offers a soft, less dungeon-y feel to your bondage. If you like the idea of pleasure in a dangerous basement, though, the clinking, chilly metal of the Sportsheets Adjustable Spreader Bar may be a much better fit. Want more bondage sex position inspiration? We have articles just for you!
Before you do that, though, you'll want to pay attention to a few quick safety tips.Always Communicate
Never Leave a Bound Person Alone
Ensure You Have the Key
Avoid Ouch-y Areas
Restraints Should be Snug - but Not Squeezing
Know How to Tie
Pick and Choose Your Bindings
Talk about Your Positions First
Start with Familiar Activities
Find Something That Feels Sexy
These bondage sex positions are particularly beginner-friendly, so they can translate to real-life just as easily as they did in your fantasies.Spread Eagle Bondage Sex Position
Bind and Bang Bondage Sex Position
Private Rubdown Bondage Sex Position
Carnal Clutch Bondage Sex Position
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